Forgiveness is Not Acceptance

There is a misconception about forgiveness.  When I say, “I forgive you,” it does not mean things go back to normal.  It does not mean that I accept your explanation or you.  It only means that I accept what you did, realized it was a mistake, and made a conscience decision to not hold a grudge.  Forgiveness, while sometimes difficult, is much easier than dwelling on the past.  I do not have to like you, trust you, understand you, accept you, or even give a shit about you to forgive you.  I have been wronged many times throughout my life.  I have also wronged way more people than I can imagine.  In order to keep my demons at bay, I must forgive, no matter the offense.  I only hope others can do the same.  The world would be a much better place.

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